Posted Dec 15 | 2597 views
Men and women are neurologically different.
“Big whoop, captain obvious!” Hear me out…
We learn as kids that boys and girls have
different parts and all of that vanilla sex education,
but what about the fundamental structural differences
in the male and female brains?
We don’t remember learning that women have a
‘communication center’ that is 2.5 times physically
larger than a man’s, giving a higher ability to
express emotions.
We don’t remember learning that little girls
scan faces for micro-expressions in order to read
emotions, but little boys don’t.
We don’t remember learning about the biological
pathway that women walk over the course of their lives
and the physical and emotional changes that happen
along the way…
Perhaps, if we did learn more than just biology
in sophomore year in high school – perhaps a social
biology course that would actually help us understand
and interact with each other, we would have a more
harmonious society and a deeper mutual
understanding.
Sure, women value stability and security (as everyone
should), which are often results of relative financial
comfort – but women who are looking for real love are
NOT often the same women looking to be ‘sponsored’ by
their own personal trust fund and allowance.
Our society is painting a picture through social
media that the happiest couples are the ones with the
houses and cars and vacations, the ones who never seem
to work. All they do is go to the gym and eat
organically and travel the world.
The REALITY is that the woman who is going to be
your true teammate in life, is looking for just that
in return. She will value the depth of your character
far more than the depth of your wallet.
OH, SHIT. That’s right, We said it.
People have been accusing me for the past 5
years of putting women on a pedestal and making it
sound like they can do no wrong – which couldn’t be
further from my actual thoughts.
Nobody is perfect. We have had my heart broken
more than we care to admit. I’ve felt betrayed. I’ve
been hurt and lied to and deceived.
So has just about every other man We have ever
known.
But, we grow up being conditioned that we need
to pursue women and cater to their every move. This
creates generation-wide waves of men who see women as
a goal to be achieved, a prize to be won, an ideal
being who needs to approve of us in order for us to
‘be a man.’
We are all human beings, no matter how much
money, status, or beauty we possess. Men will be able
to communicate better with women when they understand
that she is just a person with wants, needs, desires,
fears, loves, and insecurities – just like he is.
In the age of equality, many men assume that women no
longer want chivalry or romance. That they no longer
want to be taken to dinner or have doors opened for
them.
Just because a woman may be in charge from 9-5
on Monday through Friday, doesn’t mean she wants the
same responsibilities in a relationship. At the end of
the day, many women still appreciate a man who is the
man,and will make plans for them on date night. A man
who still romances her. A man who is chivalrous and
respectful. A man who understands that a woman can be
independent and should still be treated as a lady.
It doesn’t matter if you spent $300 on dinner. It
doesn’t matter if you’ve always been nice and kind to
her. It doesn’t even matter if you’re MARRIED.
Being an autonomous, living, breathing human
being means a person has 100% control over their own
decisions affecting their own bodies at all times.
The “prize to be won” mentality perpetuates this
myth of being able to do whatever you want once you’ve
put in the work, forgetting that there is a real human
being at the other end of the equation.
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